Haribol... I know this is a cross-posting, but I need advice; I find that the situation is getting worse...
I need grievous help on a matter.
One of my devotee friends is emotionally attached to a brahmacari who wears saffron. She finds him very attractive and adores his good qualities, and although she does not feel that there is any lust involved, she can not help but blush and giggle in thought of him. It is to the point that she acts like a little girl in his presence.
She is still keeping a very steady sadhana, chanting 16 rounds a day, going to the morning program, etc. But she wants to stop thinking about this handsome, young brahmacari, because, well, it's un-vedic and not proper. She knows that she needs help, but she does not want any other man for a husband. Or at least this is her thought for now.
Do you have any spiritual quotes or advice for my friend?
Please answer soon,
Haribol!
Madanbhakta.
My suggestion
Jai Shri Radhey
My suggestion might sound very odd. I came across exactly the same situation in my life. it was a girl, her thoughts were all around me all the time. I closed my eyes and in my thoughts i dressed her in "Krishna's" Shringar with mor pankha, pitambri and murli. I replaced her face with her with my krishna's face.
I trusted the fact that one should not love anyone else apart from "Thakur" when a little portion of your focus goes to something/someone else. just add your Krishna in to it.
your attachment with that thing/person will vanish and your love for Krishna will grow.
there are more such experiences i go through and gone through in past few years.
It worked for me might work for you.also the simplest solution is to approach that brahamchari aand ask if he is interested in getting married but there is no confirmation that once they will get married the "Moh" (attachment) between them will vanish.
Hare Krishna
Puneet
Desiring a Krishna Conscious
Desiring a Krishna Conscious husband is not against Krishna Conscious principles. and who better to marry that a well trained Krishna Conscious devotee.
Brahmacarya is proper training so that one can become a good Grihasta, married householder.
Some brahmacaris may become naishtika brahmacaris, lifelong celibates.
What can she do? She can pray to Krishna for a Krishna Conscious husband.
She can approach her spiritual seniors/authorities and inform them of her desire. They can find out if this brahmacari has any interest in marriage with anyone? If he is not interested at all in marriage then nothing can be done.
The most important item is that we do not forget Krishna. When we always remember Krishna and Guru, we will be under their shelter and what ever results we receive will come by their protective hands.
Distraction
Sounds more like a mental distraction on the part of the individual.
I personally would not get involved , but if you must, I think the best thing is to just stand by and wait to see what happens, don't do anything in the mean time. If your devotee friend slips up, just be there for inspiration in case.
Haribol