hello everyone,
im very distressed.there is no peace in my life.my friends are causing the most hurt in my life.they use me and tell me laws that i just can't follow.sometimes i feel like changing my name or just going away and disconnecting my cell phone.I feel like they are using me for what they can get.my heart tells me they don't really care for me.it hurt to feel this way cause i've known them for so along.i feel alone and im growing bitter.i trust no one and im growing into myself.all my good qaulities im losing because of my realtionships.i feel trapped and the world is just a horrible place to me.i know i shouldn't feel like this.any advice whould be a great help!
This is why i believe in him
This is why i believe in him so much..........i wrote this a while back. it is like 2am in nyc......i just logged in feeling the same as when i wrote this post and all your answers have made it so clear.krishna has used all you great devotee's to send his message to me. i will rest well.my prayers have been answered and yes,i will start to take shelter in him alot more then i have.god does answer prayers and this is proof of it.I have to let go and let god.It is hard but i no longer want my life to be the confusion it has become.i started smoking and i see that its all self destruction.im allowing maya to toy with my life.well no longer!!!! my creator has shown me the way out and im taking it. godbless every single one of you.you don't know how much i thank you for taking time out of your life to help get a fallen soul back on track.may you all be blessed.
Krishna is the only resort
Hare Krishna,
Peaceofmindji, do not let your companions manipulate or "use" you in any manner whatsoever, thereby stripping you of your individuality. Stand up and be yourself!
Judging by your post, they, like most so-called friends in the world today, are scarcely trustworthy. Such people are a horrible influence in our lives and, oftentimes, lead us astray. In my opinion, it's time you made a few new acquaintances and let go of the old ones.
Last, but not the least, take shelter in the Lord, for He is the only resort.
Awe-Struck
When are we alone
Pamho,AGTSP,Om namo bhagavate vasudevaya ,
Hare Krishna Prabhu, can you please tell me when you where alone ,in which birth .Nobody is alone in any of their birth .Krishna is always comming with us .Even when we took birth in the slum as a pig ,even when we took birth in the stool as a worm ,Krishna was with us .See His Mercy ,He is comming down to the lowest level with us .It is we who have forgotten HIM life after life .we forget everything what HE is doing for us every moment .Actually whom you see with your material eyes cannot be your true friend .Krishna is your true friend .And when Krishna Likes you .He will bring the situation that all other relations will hate you .He will make you realise that relation with
Krishna is the strongest ,best and the oldest.These small small incidents are only to give us some realisations .So understand that Krishna likes you and He has started HIS LEELA with you .TRY to enjoy with HIM .
in the service of Krishna,
an insignificant beggar.
Blessing in disguise
PAMHO.Friend, you are not alone.All of us have passed thru this stage at some point in our life.Treat this as a blessing in disguise.had it not been for such experiences you would not have turned to KRISHNA so desperately. It is such eye opening incidents that make us realise that all save Krishna is illusion. I chanced to read a very apt article in our blogs about a tea cup which was chosen to undergo a series of unpleasant and harsh stages only to finally emerge as a unique, one of its kind marvellous cup.similarly if we are but aware of the bliss that awaits us at the end of this apparent unjust life, we would willingly accept all adversities smilingly.when the ultimate destination is so divine, the road leading to it however rough and difficult to tread, is worth it, more so because we have amidst us the likes of navasi,go seva,the ever so humble eternal muser and many others, ever willing to guide us with their profound knowledge.this coupled with our undiminishing faith in Krishna will definitely take us across. HARI BOL.
wow thank you for taking the
wow thank you for taking the time to reply.
yes. i have decided to let them go and on
mor logical and spiritual goals
Let Them Go
They do not sound like friends. Leave them. Trust your instincts. They might end up landing you in a lot of trouble.
I am talking from the experience of my cousin. He allowed his friends to open a shop using his name. They thought this would be an easier and a cheaper way to do things since they were not citizens. Then they used that shop for gambling machines. Who went to prison? My cousin! They used him. They have cost him six months to a year of his life. They did not intervene or take the blame at all. Now he knows who his real friends are.
So please, please let them go if you feel you can't trust them. Always, always get out of the house to do other things. When they call, always say you’re busy. Join an evening class or something. Or spend more time at the temple. Find new friends and spend more time with them. Then slowly, slowly you'll see them less and less.
I’m not very good at advice, but I just had to warn you about these kind of people.
Now's the time
PAMHO, AGTSP, Hare Krsna~ It seems that whenever things get really bad for me in some respect, Krsna sort of starts whispering the solutions to the problems from within. The journey toward Krsna is painfully slow (or so it seems!), but along the way you have to constantly be mindful of changes you have to make to clear the way and have an easier journey. Like mataji Navasi and Eternal Muser say, it's time to clear away this unwanted association and make adjustments to your life in order to move forward. All you have to do is quit calling them or initiating contact. If they contact you, that's fine, but don't go out of your way to accomodate them in any way. If I were you, I would spend more time online trying to associate with devotees, or better yet, go to the temple more often if you are able. As Muser states, these people constitute mere material relationships; they really aren't worth your effort in trying to further any relationships.
Set the example for them to follow Krsna. You may be surprised to find out someone may want to know The Absolute Truth! And the most important thing: chant, chant, chant!
Haribol!!
Use the situation!
Hare Krishna Prabhuji!
It appears you are going through the same phase which many of us have in the past. And are likely to go through in the future. Friendships on a material level are exactly the way you describe them; motivated, manipulative and temporary.
But it is also true that only when we are positively sick of these relationships and feel TOTALLY ALONE as you feel now, do we notice the presence of Krishna (YES, He is always, always there!) standing next to us. Remember the example of the 2 birds on the fruit tree?
So use this situation. Turn away from these people who call themselves your friends and turn towards Him instead. Lock yourself in a room, stare at (or better still, hug!) the photo of Krishna that you have and cry out to Him. Talk with Him, pour out your woes as you would with your best, most intimate friend. You will not find a time when you have been more earnest and sincere in your communication with Krishna. You will cherish these moments later in life, the time when there were only you and Krishna in that room, interacting intimately with each other!
And He WILL respond, I promise. I speak from personal experience. He will not only remove your depression, He will open doors for you that you had never noticed before. As Navasi Mataji says, you will find new friends, Devotees and Association which will take you, nay, jet-propel you on the spiritual path that you are destined to walk upon. The Path of everlasting peace.
Just a thought: I have noticed at times that Krishna often creates situations where we are OBLIGED to behave in a certain way, just the way He wants us to.
Have you considered the possibility that all this is happening to you, ENTIRELY IN ACCORDANCE with His will so that you should go through all the above events……………….
Haribol Prabhu! Chin up, there’s a Blazing, Effulgent Light at the end of that dark tunnel!
Your eternal servant,
Eternal Muser
New Friends
Hare Krishna Peace,
It sounds like you need to make some new friends and let go of the old ones.
Some relationships are just not worth the effort.
Association is so important, as you have noticed. Others have such an effect on us.
If I were in your place I would definitely make a choice not to associate with them anymore. If people are dragging you down, taking advantage of you, not appreciating you, ect... you have no obligation to maintain any relationship with them.
If you clear out bad association Krishna will give you good association.
It's like house cleaning, you have to clear out the old to make room for the new.
I would not stay around people that treated me so badly.
When you do that, you will begin to have other people enter your life, people who respect you, and will treat you with love and kindness.
It takes having faith in Krishna, and how He provides what we need, to make the break with your old friends....
But sometimes that leap of faith is exactly what we need to do.
Good Luck. : )
Love,
Navasi
Another Facet
Hello peaceofmind84,
I think Eternalmuser and Navasi have made very good points and given useful suggestions, especially about embracing Krishna in times of need.
But another facet is, that in times of mental and emotional confusion it can be difficult to navigate even if you know what's right and wrong.
I just seen a posting on another page asking if there was anyone here that is a former atheist, and that reminded me of Buddhism. I was going to add a post, so I signed in and seen a note from Eternal Muser about this thread, so I came here instead.
I began to read while I still had some Buddha stuff in tow - and the word 'centered' popped into my head. I realized (and after all this time still realizing) that you can learn something anywhere and everywhere, even from an atheist! Buddhism referred to as the middle path, keeping yourself centered, not flying to high and not swinging to low - right in the middle. I think this is not really Buddhist, its just a universal truth, because a lot of other mechanics of how we work - work the same. Like bipolar disorder is a condition of flying 'to high' and then getting 'to low' - and staying in the middle is the preferred state of being.
If you are centered within yourself, and you stand for what you are, and you do this in the face of others, parasitic people will not be attracted to you, because they cant get what they want from you!
Clicks of social circles can be parasitic. Its like the Mafia, they keep reeling you in, trying to keep you in the game, and just like they say about the Mafia, they wont let you quit - but that's because your in the game - it doesn't work! But if you become a bitter taste to them, they just wont be interested in playing with you.
Hope this makes sense! - the other facet gets freaky sometimes.
Hare Krishna
hari bol
well i have read whole eternal muser and all my elders have posted well but dont worry for anything prabhu g . whenever we had major setback in our life it means GOD wants something special from us these troubles bring us more close to HIM . and this world watever it is abt 90%of ppl they r devoid of love they themselves dont know that they r source of huge energy so KRISHNA has given u chance to realize urself and this is best moment to be linked with urself becoz u r not different from krishna and he is paramananda and if u r part and parcel of HIM then y u r worried prabhu g just give one step towards HIM HE LOVES HIS DEVOTEES . HE himself create rest all . so just chant get dissolved as u and krishna r one like true lover who constanly thinks abt his love be a gopi . a true gopi whose all senses r involved in KRISHNA just chant rest will happen itself dont think u r weak or u r alone there r millions with u brother who r cheated by world in some way or other way . so give up ur all sorrows and tell ur whole griefs to krishna call him in silence of ur heart as child cries for mothers love as lover cries for love .when u will know extreme hidden treasures of urselves then these worldly pains will appear only illusion to u so ur friends i can say have created for u a way to step ahead in path of ur own self realization . dont brood for inevitable . this world itself has no rasa so it will just suck whole potential of u better think abt urself wat u love and devote urself to service of krishna and whenever u feel low see ppl around u who r much lower than u than u will be grateful to lord that u r physically mentally financially sound but in this world to whomsoever u turn they r filled with huge tragic stories so just give step inside urself where lord merciful krishna is waiting to embrace u and his love is unconditional he sees only feelings . well if i have posted anything wrong then i beg pardon from all of my elders but krishna is so immense that he cant be calculated in words so hari bol and get out of these frustrations hare krishna hare krishna krishna krishna hare hare hare rama hare rama ram ram hare hare